Childfree: Tone down the aggression

Posted by Sebastyn in Childfree | 4 comments

There are two types of childfree people; those who like children but are happy without their own, and those aggressive ones who down right hate children and wish they would disappear from the face of the planet – or would at least be locked up with their breeder parents into a kennel somewhere out of sight until they turn 18, or preferably 25. The later mentioned are to the childfree what “breeders” are to parents – the ones that give all of us a bad rep.

What troubles about me the most about aggressive childfree people is that they often demand respect for their choice to not “breed”, but offer no respect to the parents choice to have children. In their view, the breeder’s choice is so well catered for that they don’t need any extra respect from us, probably even if they would respect our choice. Unfortunately, they often come out looking like a spoiled bunch of teenagers flipping fingers and cursing everyone around them – acting like children – in the bad way.

I have had my aggressive time of hating children too. To my defence, I grew out of it at 20 when I realized that I didn’t hate children at all, I hated parents who didn’t UNDERSTAND how children think, or who were completely disregarding everyone else’s needs… Like letting their child stand on the bus stop bench with muddy shoes during rain like there was nothing wrong with it at all. I still hate those parents, but feel deeply sorry for their children. I think I’m getting aggressive on behalf of those children. They deserve better.

What I find even more surprising is situations when the aggressive childfree people use derogatory words describing children and get surprised when parents object. “It wasn’t about THEIR children!” they say… But should someone say a word against the childfree people (or their cats) in general, they get just as huffy and puffy about it as any reasonable parent who doesn’t want any child to be talked about in a hateful way.

I am personally balancing just on the fine line between what is acceptable and what is not in terms of ‘anti-child’ opinions. Basically what I do wrong is that I talk about it too much… I guess. Not considering pro-lifers, most people don’t find much to argue about when I voice my opinion. Then again, I save some of them for forums specifically for childfree people, as I do hold some opinions that would be very unpopular if said out loud in general public. There’s time and a place, just like there’s a time and a place for children (which is not a movie theatre after 8pm).

As for you childfree’s on Facebook… Learn how to make friends lists and how to use them to hide some status updates and photos from the ‘common man’, and how to share it only with your childfree friends. That way you can still get support when you’re annoyed with a screaming kid, but you don’t have to offend even the most sensitive of parents while getting it.

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