My Dear Hard Drive

Where has this world come to. Here we are debating over the issue of the lack of scientific proof of Gay people being born gay or having chosen to be gay… There is not sufficient amount of scientific evidence, they say. The evidence that exists, must be manufactured by pro-gay activists. Now the irony is, that these people fight the battle of an entity, that hasn’t been even remotely proven to be real, regardless of a lot of people believing that he is.

We don’t know if God exists. We have absolutely zero (0) chance of ever finding out for any reasonable certainty that God exist. Secondly, we don’t know even with a remote certainty about his views to gay people. We have a lot of interpretations of a book that hasn’t been proven to have anything to do with the real God, if there is one. And yet, we’re expected to accept legal decisions that are largely based on wild assumptions of this entity and his opinions versus not quite conclusive scientific evidence and the testimony of people who actually are gay. Like if there was even people who had MET God, let alone BEEN God, they would have a fight, but we have a whole bunch of people who ARE Gay, who somehow are not entitled to an opinion on whether or not they chose or did they have the right to choose to be gay.

We know that gay people exist. We are not sure if God exists. Which is more important? Do you think that God disappears if being gay became the norm? (As if it would.) Are you worried about the mortal soul of these gay people? Why not let them have the choice of risking burning in hell for their “choices” and mind your own god damned business. (Pun intended.)

There is a lot to be said about sexually transmitted diseases spreading and unwanted pregnancies increasing as a result of the True Love Waits -approach, or otherwise known as abstinence only -sex education. Personally I am even more worried about the emotional and mental health issues that may follow from this type of teaching, especially from the female point of view.

I know we don’t like the idea of our kids having sex. We don’t even like the thought of our parents having sex. In fact, I don’t think any of us really likes to think about anyone they know having sex, so I understand why we would have the need to control our loved ones willingness of having sex. Parents say it’s not good for you, it harms you both physically and emotionally, and that can be true, but instead of teaching the kids how to have safe sex, some of them opt out by teaching that not having sex is the only option.

Now I am not against the idea of abstinence, up to a point. It is good to wait until you are emotionally good and ready, and by “emotionally” I don’t mean being in a loving and caring relationship necessarily, but that you want to have sex and you don’t have moral qualms about what you’re doing and you are strong enough to face the potential problems that could arise from it. And by potential problems I mean people giving you shit about it (even tough I don’t think it’s none of their damned business), sexually transmitted diseases (including AIDS but not limited to it) and unwanted pregnancies (that you have to deal with one way or another).

I saw a documentary about the True Love Waits campaign some time ago, and what I saw then, disturbed me a great deal. A teacher was holding up two tooth brushes, one used, one in the neat wrapping and asked which one would the kids use if they had the choice. They, of course, chose the one in wrapping. The teacher went on to explain that just like the toothbrush, you should choose a partner who hasn’t had sex before and you should “keep yourself in wrapping” until you are married. Then they went on to explain all the things that are wrong in using a used toothbrush - you don’t know where it’s been and you can get diseases and it’s vile… All true in the case of a toothbrush, but it maddened me to think that someone would actually think it’s the same thing with people. A toothbrush doesn’t have a heart. They don’t love you. They don’t have emotions, personality or anything to give you except clean teeth. You will throw one out after using it for a month if you do as your dentists tell you to. A human being won’t loose his or her value after it has been “used”. A human being has nothing to do with toothbrushes.

Now lets imagine a sensitive person who actually takes this garbage to heart. Let’s imagine it’s a girl. She has one weak moment and has sex with a boyfriend she loved to bits. It felt good and right in the moment, but after the heat of the moment, the guilt starts creeping in. You are worthless now. Nobody will love you. Your boyfriend lost all respect for you now. DO you think he will “buy the product after having used it?” No way, he’ll find a new product, a new girl and marries her. He wouldn’t marry you! So she believes that and starts acting accordingly. Blames the boyfriend for hating her now, not having respect and looking at other girls. For a while he tries to convince her that he still loves her, he doesn’t want anyone else and he certainly haven’t lost his respect for her. However, he gets tired of convincing her and decides that there will be no future for them at this rate, leaves her “and proves her right”.

So she will now have to go on as a “used toothbrush” that nobody will want. That is her reality, that is what she has been taught. She is broken by having sex, that is what she believes, when in fact the thing that broke her was her sex ed. She has no respect for herself, so when that guy comes in that will tell her she’s all right, an he will love her regardless, she will take the offer. No matter she’s not really that into him, but he said he’d love her, regardless. She gets married, has a baby and finds out she married an abusive man. She gets beaten up every now and then, then he apologies and says that it is all because you had sex with that man. He thought he would be strong enough to handle that, but jealousy just sweeps over him every now and then, and that is why he lost control… He loves her so, regardless. And she understands him, she deserves no better than getting beaten up on a regular basis. She’s a slut after all.

Okay, let’s move on to the scenario #2, when she does wait until marriage. She’s 18, her hormones are running wild and she can’t wait to have sex. She has a boyfriend, not the man of her dreams by a long shot, but he’s there and he’s willing, like her, to marry before having sex. So they decide to marry, and jump into bed with high hopes. This is it! This is the way God intended! Marital blizz! So they have sex. He’s ecstatic in the morning, and thinks this is so fantastic. He has someone to have sex with for the rest of his life. She is not so excited. It wasn’t nearly as good as she thought. She doesn’t feel more in love with him now that they had sex. The sex wasn’t great at all. She didn’t orgasm, even though she did everything right. He didn’t even notice. She’s too embarrassed to say anything besides, she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings. Suddenly she sees years and years of unfulfilled hopes and dreams stretch in front of her to be shared with that man… And she’s probably pregnant by the end of the week, because birth control was never an issue. She struggles ahead for the next 15 years and decides it is time to face the truth and divorce him and find someone she’s really into. With 8 kids it might be a bit of an issue, but still, you have to try.

If there are teens reading this… Let me tell you something. Don’t ever put a value on yourself by the number of people you have slept with. Not if you think it’s cool to have a lot of partners, and not if you think it’s uncool. Put a value on yourself based on your personality. How funny you are. How loving you are. How people enjoy being in your company, how well you take care of your pets, how responsible you are, how talented you are, but never by the number of people you sleep with. You can NEVER be sure that the person you have sex with will stay with you, whether or not you marry him or her, but at the same time, whether or not you have sex with people will not make them loose respect for you or make them not want to marry you. That doesn’t even come into the radar screen! What matters is your respect for yourself, and how you treat people. I can tell you that I’ve had sex with a lot of guys, and only ONE ever treated me with disrespect. He however wasn’t healthy. I learned later on that he had some sort of a mental disorder which made him a little… Well, mental. However, I walked out on him as I deserve no disrespect no matter where it comes from. I am afraid though, that if your school teaches abstinence only from a religious point of view there can be people who try to make you think less of yourself by making remarks about having had sex before marriage, but you should not take those comments into heart. As for people marrying you after having sex with you; I had sex with my husband before we got married, and here he is, still loving me and respecting me, as I do him. And all of the happily married people I know have had sex before marriage. (I don’t really hang out in the circles that believe in abstinence.)

Educate yourself on birth control, there is heaps of information online. Choose the method best suited for you (condom is always a good choice unless you have latex allergy, and if you do there are latex free condoms available). And, never, ever ever let anyone dictate to you who you should or should not sleep with. It is YOUR CHOICE, and yours alone. And never ever disrespect yourself for your choices, because that is the only way anyone will have the grounds of disrespecting you. Read about sex, as much as you can, from as many sources as you can, hell, watch some porn while you’re at it (as long as it’s legal of course). You need to know what it is to know what you’re signing up for or signing out of. You need to be aware of what you like about it and what you don’t like about it, so you’ll be able to inform your partner. Oh, and masturbate. It’s good for you and I promise won’t make your palms hairy.

Spurred by the comment I received to the Obama-post, I started thinking about what a war is like to most nations apart from USA. Most nations, when they say their soldiers protect their nation, actually do mean that. USA has had what… One attack on their own soil, and that was hardly a military attack. They are STILL terrified of it. American civilians, thank God, have no idea what a war is like. I can say much the same for myself, thank God, but I can’t say the same for my family members, of whom some are old enough to have fought or lived through our two latest wars, the Winter War, which was fought at the same time as the World War II, and/or the Continuation War. By “us” I mean the Finns.

Finns do not have a hired army, apart from some staff members that stay on duty the whole time. If there should be a war, it would affect every family in Finland. Virtually every male, between ages 18 to 60 will be sent off to protect our borders. That excludes those who are incapacitated and includes men who refuse to carry a gun but will serve in other duties, and some women who serve in arms on voluntary basis. That guarantees, that there will not be wars that are of selfish reasons by the government leaders, as they will be sending their own sons to the slaughter just as they send those of the common citizen. Nations like that usually fight only when it is absolutely necessary, and not because some reason made up by the government to justify spending tons of money on an army.

This was the case when the Soviet Union led by Joseph Stalin attacked Finland on November 30, 1939. The reason was, that Soviet Union (now Russia) wanted to protect their capital of the time, Leningrad from Germans, as it situated too close to the Finnish border. They were worried, that Finland, despite it’s neutral position to WW2 would still allow Germans to attack through it, or could not stop them from doing it. Finland refused the request to use the land for military purposes, so SU attacked.

Now imagine. You sit peacefully in your home, listening to the news on the radio, and you hear that your country is being attacked by a country of a massive size, with an army 4 times the size of yours, and that is only counting their strength in soldiers sent your way. (If it was USA, it would probably mean something like the combined forces of all European countries, Russia, and probably South-America as well, and I don’t think it would still create terror similar to that of Finns.) You know that Sweden, on the west side of your country, has agreed not to join the war on your behalf in exchange of a promise by Russians that they won’t cross their border when they get there. WHEN they get there, they say. They are planning to walk all over your country in two weeks, and there is nothing stopping them, but an army of 250 000 men shooting pea guns. An army including your husband, your sons, your father and your brothers, and not only them, but every man you’ve ever known, unless they are over or under that age limit of 60 or 18. You thought they went to military rehearsal, but now you know they were sent to the border in case there is a war.

If you would live in Helsinki, the capital, you would know to expect bombing. You would know exactly where the bomb shelters are, and how many seconds it takes for you to collect your kids and run to the shelter. You would sleep with your clothes on, so you wouldn’t have to run to the streets in your nightie. The city would be sitting in a total darkness at nights, and what long nights they are in the winter, so that the army can misguide the Soviet bombers to bomb an inhabited island before the actual city by lighting little fires in there. Other towns were not as well protected as Helsinki was, and I used to live in a house that was one storey shorter than it started out with, the Russian bombers had shortened it a bit. At least it was still standing. The attic, where I dried my laundry, once was the top floor, now blown to pieces. Someone had lived there. I hope they heard the warning sirens in time and ran to bomb shelters before that happened.

You would eventually decide that it would be better for your children to live somewhere safe and you ship them off to Sweden to be raised by people you have never met, and to be treated like second class citizens all through their childhood and young adult life. You, and many of your friends would never see the children again, and some of them would never learn to speak your language. You would no longer work at what ever you did before, but you would be making clothes for the army, or filling shells of bullets with gun powder. You would go to the store hoping they had something to sell today, as you ran out of food a week ago. My grand mother once told me how she spent her last money on a bowl of pea soup at the bus station knowing that the next time she would get paid was a week from that, and she would not have a thing to eat until then. And that was after the war.

Should you live close to the Russian border, you would have left in a big hurry after the news… A little before possibly. You would pack everything you can on a horse carriage and take that last look at your home knowing that it might not be standing the next time you see it. You might not ever see it again, because your home village would be overtaken by Russians and you could never return. If you decided to stay regardless, like some people did, you wouldn’t know what would happen to you. There are no rules on a war path.

It was an impossible war, but the Soviet Union never made it to the Swedish border. Now look at the statistics here and understand why it was a miracle that Finland survived.

We received help from USA in the form of clothing and food, which we paid back before scheduled. (How ever did my grand parents and their generation ever managed that I don’t have an idea off.)

(Click on Read more to find some videos of the war, in English aired in USA.) (more…)

I have been saying through the last few weeks, that I do think McCain will take presidency, even though I hoped that it will be Obama. I thought it would be tight, but in the end go to McCain, but I am extremely happy to say I was wrong. You have given yourself a brand new reason for being proud, proud Americans.

The symbolism of this election is more important than that of the political reasons behind it. The person, Obama, who is vibrant and engaging, a true leader, will be welcomed not only to the hearts of the Americans, but into the hearts of the people of the world. I truly believe that you have got yourselves a new J.F. Kennedy, a great American president, widely loved and respected, regardless of the obvious differences between the two.

But now, Americans, look out for your new president. I am afraid that he is a combination of J.F. Kennedy and Martin Luther King, and we all know what happened to them. Be suspicious and observing when ever you are in his presence, and look out for him. Do not let him be harmed, you worked hard to get him, now you must work hard to keep him.

Regardless, congratulations to each and every one of you, and of course the man himself!

I will warn you now, that there will be a lot of swearing going on in this post. A lot. I am so fucking angry you cannot believe me. I recently watched an episode of Australian RSPCA stories. A man dropped off a litter of kittens in front of a veterinary clinic and was fined. In USA though, you can drop off CHILDREN at a hospital door and not be procecuted.

Now I understand where this law comes from. It is a better option for killing newborns and dumping them into the bin for sure. Is it the only option for it, I don’t think so.

This is yet another way to make teens more irresponsible when having sex, after being brainwashed against using birth control as “they shouldn’t have been having sex in the first place”. Abortion laws and pro-life people are not helping.

I would approve easy, what ever your reasons -type of adoption, where the child would be given into the care of an orphanage, or where ever these kids would end up to. Through orphanage probably before being sent to foster homes. It would give the child something to work with in the future, when he would wonder why he was abandoned. The mother should anonymously give information about her circumstances and reasons for the decision, to be given to the child at an appropriate age. That is what adopted kids usually want to know, why did she do this? Why was I abandoned? It doesn’t matter who the mother is, where she came from, but what matters is why she left me. This information should then be stored at some database or what ever, and I would encourage the mother to give something personal to the child. Like a pedant or something romantic, just to make the child feel special in some way. They could even be given a number, that both of them would have in case they would want to track each other down later, when circumstances change and you want to know what happened to the child/the mother. That number could be stored without any information into a database, until the child or the mother releases their information for that number. Once both parties had filled their info, they could be informed of each other’s details.

But this law encourages just.. FUCK ME! If you can’t face a sympathetic face that will take care of your child, what kind of a person does that make you? Put a bag over your head or something, but for fucks sake, how EASY AND FUN does ones life really have to be?! The USA’s manner of taking care of teen age pregnancies is just straight out of medieval times, and should have no place in a modern society.

In Nebraska, you can drop of practically adult children when you get tired of them. How likely is it, that they would end up dead anyway? I am so freaking mad about this. I understand it, but it still makes me want to scream and shoot the people doing it. Curiously, I’m not as furious about the thought of babies getting killed. They won’t have to live with the trauma of being DROPPED OFF and abandoned. Sometimes I wonder if people actually remember at all what it was like being a child. It wasn’t fucking all fun and games people! It was traumatic, scary and fucking stupid at most times. If people cannot do right by their children, they should be aborted instead of abandoned at door steps somewhere. I mean if you can face killing a child, do you seriously think that you cannot face someone who will ask you a couple of questions and take the kid off your hands? Wouldn’t you feel a tad better if you knew you gave the kid all you could, a REASON?

I have also troubles following the logic that says decriminalising the lesser crime would keep people from murdering their children. I mean if it’s really a fear of the punishment, wouldn’t it be logical to drop the child at the hospital anyway, regardless of the punishment? But this is not about logic from the infant killers point of view, it is about panic. No infant murder will be prevented by this law.

Argh. Who am I kidding. Getting rid of a child should not be made easy. Preventing an unwanted pregnancy and aborting it should be however. It’s that fucking monkey Bush again who is forcing people to go to extremes like this. But for fucks sake, what would you do if you were 15, pregnant and feeling guilty for having a kid? You knew you had this option to get rid of it… Would you take it or go through the complicated procedure of legal adoption? This is nothing but an encouragement to do just that. Never mind the newborns in trash bins. They are a mere minority in this, sure it is AWFUL, but certainly it doesn’t have to come to this, if things are handled right from the start. CONDOMS. Just give them condoms for fucks sake, and make them make the hard decisions if they mess up without them!

I’ve always said that kids don’t come with a return policy, but apparently I was wrong. In some countries (not to mention any fucking names), it is BAD to have sex, it is BAD to use contraception, it is BAD to abort, but hey, it’s perfectly FINE to abandon your kid without a word. You stupid fucking cunts.