Comments on: Fight for the right to not breed http://www.sebastyne.net/2009/04/fight-for-the-right-to-not-breed/ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 01:00:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Sebastyne http://www.sebastyne.net/2009/04/fight-for-the-right-to-not-breed/comment-page-1/#comment-12534 Sebastyne Thu, 16 Apr 2009 03:44:58 +0000 http://www.sebastyne.net/?p=932#comment-12534 Yes, it is funny how a God who is Almighty should let something like the pill slip through his radar and allowed it to be invented if he didn't think there was a need for it. :p I believe there is nothing in this world that god did not plan to put here for one reason or another, nor will anything ever leave this place for no reason, goes with abortions as well. I do believe that everything happens for a reason, and there is nothing that is ungodly. It is impossible to be ungodly, as everything that is, is from god. (Note that I spell that without capitalising.) Yes, it is funny how a God who is Almighty should let something like the pill slip through his radar and allowed it to be invented if he didn’t think there was a need for it. :p I believe there is nothing in this world that god did not plan to put here for one reason or another, nor will anything ever leave this place for no reason, goes with abortions as well. I do believe that everything happens for a reason, and there is nothing that is ungodly. It is impossible to be ungodly, as everything that is, is from god. (Note that I spell that without capitalising.)

]]> By: timethief http://www.sebastyne.net/2009/04/fight-for-the-right-to-not-breed/comment-page-1/#comment-12532 timethief Thu, 16 Apr 2009 02:23:27 +0000 http://www.sebastyne.net/?p=932#comment-12532 My husband and I decided years ago that we would remain child-free and we have never regretted that choice. As two older children from large families we both had plenty of experience when it came to raising our younger siblings. Both at work and in our personal lives we have been expected to contribute financially to children’s organizations and we have given freely of our funds and time. We have had lots of hands-on experience volunteering in children’s clubs. We have benefited from the good times we had with the kids. And those we came into such close contact with valued our relationship so highly that they still drop in to visit us now that they are headed off to highschool. However, there have been many who have not respected our choice. They were in a state of denial. They were just to closed minded to foresee how happy together and how devoted to one another childfree couples can be. A few (impaired by their religious brainwashing) told us our choice was “un-Godly”. Some told us we would be missing something “special” in our lives. Others told us not wanting children is “unnatural”. Still others told us not having children means we are “selfish”. It was and still is hard not to laugh out loud at these types because they all have the same thing in common — closed minds. They are deluded by their belief that producing little images of themselves is a selfless, natural act blessed by God — a service to humanity. We live in an overpopulated world. The children born today are among those who will devour 80% of the planet’s resources. Moreover, given the state of the environment, we ought to think it’s perverse that children today are being falsely taught that the hormonal drive to reproduce evident in all animal species is “special”; and that, those who do not choose to breed are “selfish”. The bottom line is: There are many reasons to choose not to have children and when couples make the childfree choice that choice should be respected. <abbr><em>timethiefs last blog post..<a href="http://thistimethisspace.com/2009/04/15/men-and-depression/">Men and depression</a></abbr></em> My husband and I decided years ago that we would remain child-free and we have never regretted that choice. As two older children from large families we both had plenty of experience when it came to raising our younger siblings.

Both at work and in our personal lives we have been expected to contribute financially to children’s organizations and we have given freely of our funds and time. We have had lots of hands-on experience volunteering in children’s clubs.

We have benefited from the good times we had with the kids. And those we came into such close contact with valued our relationship so highly that they still drop in to visit us now that they are headed off to highschool.

However, there have been many who have not respected our choice. They were in a state of denial. They were just to closed minded to foresee how happy together and how devoted to one another childfree couples can be.

A few (impaired by their religious brainwashing) told us our choice was “un-Godly”.

Some told us we would be missing something “special” in our lives.

Others told us not wanting children is “unnatural”.

Still others told us not having children means we are “selfish”.

It was and still is hard not to laugh out loud at these types because they all have the same thing in common — closed minds. They are deluded by their belief that producing little images of themselves is a selfless, natural act blessed by God — a service to humanity.

We live in an overpopulated world. The children born today are among those who will devour 80% of the planet’s resources. Moreover, given the state of the environment, we ought to think it’s perverse that children today are being falsely taught that the hormonal drive to reproduce evident in all animal species is “special”; and that, those who do not choose to breed are “selfish”.

The bottom line is: There are many reasons to choose not to have children and when couples make the childfree choice that choice should be respected.

timethiefs last blog post..Men and depression

]]> By: Heidi http://www.sebastyne.net/2009/04/fight-for-the-right-to-not-breed/comment-page-1/#comment-12523 Heidi Sat, 04 Apr 2009 08:31:26 +0000 http://www.sebastyne.net/?p=932#comment-12523 It´s no one else´s business. My hairdresser (younger than me, has one daughter) asked me: do I have baby boom yet. Huh?! What kind of question is that. Well, we have talked earlier about kids, but still I was surprised... I answered: not yet, I´m a freak xD It´s no one else´s business. My hairdresser (younger than me, has one daughter) asked me: do I have baby boom yet. Huh?! What kind of question is that. Well, we have talked earlier about kids, but still I was surprised… I answered: not yet, I´m a freak xD

]]> By: Vera http://www.sebastyne.net/2009/04/fight-for-the-right-to-not-breed/comment-page-1/#comment-12517 Vera Wed, 01 Apr 2009 08:00:11 +0000 http://www.sebastyne.net/?p=932#comment-12517 Your choice shouldn't be an issue at all. It's not like you had kids and gave them away because you didn't want them anymore. ooops, that might be controversial... I think it's a totally mature decision to admit that you have other priorities in life and having kids just isn't one of them. Go you! :) <abbr><em>Veras last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/WhereTheMoonShines/~3/r8zxtw-JcNQ/">Congrats Bestfriend!</a></abbr></em> Your choice shouldn’t be an issue at all. It’s not like you had kids and gave them away because you didn’t want them anymore. ooops, that might be controversial…

I think it’s a totally mature decision to admit that you have other priorities in life and having kids just isn’t one of them. Go you! :)

Veras last blog post..Congrats Bestfriend!

]]> By: Therese http://www.sebastyne.net/2009/04/fight-for-the-right-to-not-breed/comment-page-1/#comment-12512 Therese Wed, 01 Apr 2009 02:33:55 +0000 http://www.sebastyne.net/?p=932#comment-12512 I don't understand why this is such an issue. I would definitely love children whether biological or adopted and I completely respect others who do not wish to have kids. It is a big responsibility and it's completely fine if you choose to not take up this certain one as there are plenty of OTHER existing responsibilities in the world that need picking up. An opposite story to yours... I did break up with an ex because HE didn't want kids... and never will. I recognised it as a real and legitimate life decision and I wasn't going to hang around being disappointed OR disappointing HIM. Besides how are you hurting anyone by not having kids??? Sometimes I do have thoughts of never having kids as I do not want them to be afflicted with my genetic faults... I like to keep my options open, but some people have already chosen their option and I respect that decision. I don’t understand why this is such an issue. I would definitely love children whether biological or adopted and I completely respect others who do not wish to have kids. It is a big responsibility and it’s completely fine if you choose to not take up this certain one as there are plenty of OTHER existing responsibilities in the world that need picking up.

An opposite story to yours… I did break up with an ex because HE didn’t want kids… and never will. I recognised it as a real and legitimate life decision and I wasn’t going to hang around being disappointed OR disappointing HIM.

Besides how are you hurting anyone by not having kids??? Sometimes I do have thoughts of never having kids as I do not want them to be afflicted with my genetic faults… I like to keep my options open, but some people have already chosen their option and I respect that decision.

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