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I will warn you now, that there will be a lot of swearing going on in this post. A lot. I am so fucking angry you cannot believe me. I recently watched an episode of Australian RSPCA stories. A man dropped off a litter of kittens in front of a veterinary clinic and was fined. In USA though, you can drop off CHILDREN at a hospital door and not be procecuted.

Now I understand where this law comes from. It is a better option for killing newborns and dumping them into the bin for sure. Is it the only option for it, I don’t think so.

This is yet another way to make teens more irresponsible when having sex, after being brainwashed against using birth control as “they shouldn’t have been having sex in the first place”. Abortion laws and pro-life people are not helping.

I would approve easy, what ever your reasons -type of adoption, where the child would be given into the care of an orphanage, or where ever these kids would end up to. Through orphanage probably before being sent to foster homes. It would give the child something to work with in the future, when he would wonder why he was abandoned. The mother should anonymously give information about her circumstances and reasons for the decision, to be given to the child at an appropriate age. That is what adopted kids usually want to know, why did she do this? Why was I abandoned? It doesn’t matter who the mother is, where she came from, but what matters is why she left me. This information should then be stored at some database or what ever, and I would encourage the mother to give something personal to the child. Like a pedant or something romantic, just to make the child feel special in some way. They could even be given a number, that both of them would have in case they would want to track each other down later, when circumstances change and you want to know what happened to the child/the mother. That number could be stored without any information into a database, until the child or the mother releases their information for that number. Once both parties had filled their info, they could be informed of each other’s details.

But this law encourages just.. FUCK ME! If you can’t face a sympathetic face that will take care of your child, what kind of a person does that make you? Put a bag over your head or something, but for fucks sake, how EASY AND FUN does ones life really have to be?! The USA’s manner of taking care of teen age pregnancies is just straight out of medieval times, and should have no place in a modern society.

In Nebraska, you can drop of practically adult children when you get tired of them. How likely is it, that they would end up dead anyway? I am so freaking mad about this. I understand it, but it still makes me want to scream and shoot the people doing it. Curiously, I’m not as furious about the thought of babies getting killed. They won’t have to live with the trauma of being DROPPED OFF and abandoned. Sometimes I wonder if people actually remember at all what it was like being a child. It wasn’t fucking all fun and games people! It was traumatic, scary and fucking stupid at most times. If people cannot do right by their children, they should be aborted instead of abandoned at door steps somewhere. I mean if you can face killing a child, do you seriously think that you cannot face someone who will ask you a couple of questions and take the kid off your hands? Wouldn’t you feel a tad better if you knew you gave the kid all you could, a REASON?

I have also troubles following the logic that says decriminalising the lesser crime would keep people from murdering their children. I mean if it’s really a fear of the punishment, wouldn’t it be logical to drop the child at the hospital anyway, regardless of the punishment? But this is not about logic from the infant killers point of view, it is about panic. No infant murder will be prevented by this law.

Argh. Who am I kidding. Getting rid of a child should not be made easy. Preventing an unwanted pregnancy and aborting it should be however. It’s that fucking monkey Bush again who is forcing people to go to extremes like this. But for fucks sake, what would you do if you were 15, pregnant and feeling guilty for having a kid? You knew you had this option to get rid of it… Would you take it or go through the complicated procedure of legal adoption? This is nothing but an encouragement to do just that. Never mind the newborns in trash bins. They are a mere minority in this, sure it is AWFUL, but certainly it doesn’t have to come to this, if things are handled right from the start. CONDOMS. Just give them condoms for fucks sake, and make them make the hard decisions if they mess up without them!

I’ve always said that kids don’t come with a return policy, but apparently I was wrong. In some countries (not to mention any fucking names), it is BAD to have sex, it is BAD to use contraception, it is BAD to abort, but hey, it’s perfectly FINE to abandon your kid without a word. You stupid fucking cunts.

I love discussion boards. To me they are the BEST THING about the Internet. Blogs are good, but discussion boards are super duper. Running one is like combining the blog and a discussion board, people still come to your site, but you get to see them STAY even though you weren’t active for days. That is so cool.

There are different type of discussion boards though. I don’t love all of them.

1. Super popular general boards

Example: MySpace Forums
These forums rarely produce discussions that are worth following. They are riddled with people who are there just to annoy you or make you feel like shit. Even if they didn’t have that effect on you, why would you want to hang out with those people anyway?

2. Super popular niche boards

Such as: Blog Catalog Discussion
These are a little better. Everyone has something in common, so everyone cen find something to talk to, help each other and give tips. The downside is that the discussion rarely gets very interesting, as because you know there will be 30 replies in about 30 minutes, if you take time to reply people will skip your reply anyway so there’s no point.

4. Small niche board

Little like doll collectors discussions.
Easy to start! Everyone has the interesting topic in mind so it’s easy to start talking. However, things rarely get very personal on these boards, as there is that topic, and even though off topic board would be introduced it’s a bit hard to “go there” as people are a tad bit worried about their credibility as a hobbyist if they stray too far from the topic.

3. Small general boards

Such as My Old board.

Hard one to get off ground! With nothing to base the conversation on, it can start out like pulling teeth! A good humorous base group is essential, people who like talking and chattering away to each other, even if nobody else was around. On these boards discussion CAN get really interesting. On the downside, after all that hard work, as they are small, the ripple effect of one disruptive member can actually take down the whole board. At best, the conversation can go really deep and personal, and you can make real friends on these boards.

Related reading:

Handling a conflict on a forum - relating to types 3&4 really.

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